Qualities Mature Men should Look for in a Wife

Men obviously want in-between-the-sheets time to be amazing, but that’s not the only trait a mature man should look for. He needs to evaluate other aspects of a woman in order to find the best woman to marry.

1. Be Real

A man wants to know exactly what he’s getting into before he actually takes that big step. That’s why a woman needs to be real from the time she meets a man until the day he walks her down the aisle. This doesn’t mean she can’t wear makeup most of the time or even all of the time, but she’s needs to show her true self and not put on an act or do things to solely impress a man.

2. Ambitious 

A man needs a woman who knows what she wants out of life and goes after it. A woman who isn’t ambitious will be comfortable being stagnant and never moving on in life. This type of woman has her future mapped out. She’s certain on what she wants out of life, and she has a plan on how to get it.

3. Independent
No man wants to feel like a woman is only walking down the altar with him to get to his money so that she can have a free ride in life. A man needs a woman who doesn’t need him but who wants to be with him. He needs a woman who already has her own but would love to build with him.

4. Supportive

We all need somebody to lean on, correct? Men need this as well. They want a partner who supports them and who is there for them when they need it. A man needs someone to support him with issues like choosing a new career.

5. Easygoing

A man needs a woman who is easygoing. He doesn’t need a woman who wants to fight every decision he makes. Being disagreeable is an unpleasant trait that a man doesn’t want to deal with for the rest of his life.

6. Honest
Sometimes the truth hurts. This is just a fact, but a man would rather hear the truth and have it hurt than be lied to, especially on a regular basis. It’s one thing to conceal the truth every now and again to try to protect a man’s feelings, but it’s another thing to lie about where you go, what you do and who you used to be. A man needs a woman who tells him the truth. A mature man realizes that when a woman tells the truth, he can tell her anything in return. He also has enough maturity that he can work through whatever the truth is.

Real men don’t have a specific type, despite what people say. A real man, one that’s mature at least, needs to be selective about the woman he marries. The aforementioned traits are just a few traits a woman should have if she’s wife material.

 

Qualities Mature Women should Look for in a Husband

Marriage is an institution where two people unite in a vow to spend their lives together. Because it is such a serious commitment, people must truly evaluate a person before going to the altar with him. There are certain traits a mature women should look for in a husband.

1. His Stance on a Woman’s Place

While you may have heard a woman’s place is in the kitchen, it really isn’t. A woman can hold great positions of power nowadays. The man a woman chooses to make her husband should have a similar belief of where a woman stands. For instance, if a woman feels like she wants to have a career and not have children, a man should understand this and accept it. If a woman wants to be a stay-at-home mother, he should feel like that’s acceptable and not belittle her for her decision.

2. Listen

As a mature woman, you need a partner who is willing to listen. And this means doing more than just hearing the words that are coming out of your mouth. He should listen when you have a problem or when you just want to share.  He should respond and be genuine about it.

3. Fight Well

You’re bound to fight in a relationship. It’s inevitable. However, you two should fight well. You should be able to come to a conclusion whether it’s agreeing with the other person or coming to a compromise.

4. Same Interests and Values

Yes, opposites do attract, but they aren’t always the best in relationships together. You need to have some similar values and interests. Although it’s fine to compromise and do what the other one wants sometimes, it makes it difficult to make plans and just relax and talk with one another.

5. Emotionally Mature

Maturity doesn’t always come with age. Some people just never seem to become emotionally mature. However, it’s an important trait to look for in someone you plan to marry. You have to evaluate how the person responses to a problem by evaluating if he is willing to problem solve with you. You should consider if he is willing to speak to you rationally or if he screams and throws a fit until he gets his way.

6. Commitment

Commitment is hard for some men. They don’t want to lose out on being able to see other women. They don’t want to lose their independence either. A mature woman, on the other hand, needs commitment to feel like she’s safe in her relationship. It also makes a woman feel special and loved.

7. Responsible 

The man you should want and you definitely need is one that’s responsible. Take note if he goes to work on top, takes care of his bills and basically has his life together. A responsible man will be one that will best help you take care of a household. He’ll be one that will be a partner with you and raise a child with you.

Everyone has different preferences as to what they want out of a man. With that being said, there are certain traits a woman should look for in addition to her personal preferences.